“Do not let circumstances influence your thoughts and moods. By rising over them mentally, you will eventually rise over them materially.” – Remez Sasson
“If you focus on the possible when you experience difficult situations, you can positively change your outlook, reduce your stress, and concentrate on achieving things that otherwise may not have been possible.” – Catherine Pulsifer
Sometimes life gives you lemons, really sour lemons. And you can either choose to rise above it or let it drag you down.
It can be a job that you hate going to everyday because you have the boss from hell. It could be that you are overwhelmed by a mountain of debt and can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. Or you have people in your life who bring you down.
Not too long ago, we had over $10,000 of debt, including a loan that had 59% interest! That was $250/mo in interest alone. So ridiculous!
At that time, I didn’t think we would ever get rid of it. I was laid off from my job, we were living on one income, and I wasn’t receiving unemployment yet. Money was really tight.
Of course, the first thing I thought of was to borrow money. But I didn’t. Borrowing money to pay off debt never really works. You can end up in even deeper debt or in unhappy circumstances with friends/family you borrowed the money from.
But I started to change the way I thought. Instead of thinking “I can’t”, I changed it to “I can.” After a few months, I received my unemployment checks all at once. So I ended up with huge lump sums, which I used to pay off the stupid loan with 59% interest. I then sold some video equipment to pay off more debt and start an emergency fund. And I found another job soon after.
Whatever it is that you’re going through, you aren’t the only one who goes through these kinds of problems. Other people have gone through the same things and have risen above it. How? Through positive thinking.
This might sound crazy, to think positively when you are in a hole. But in order to get out, you have to let go of the negativity, so you can free yourself to think of solutions. Here’s how:
1. Mind your own business. Don’t let other people’s problems or negativity affect you. Who cares what someone else is doing? It’s none of your business! You have block out those things. Focus on yourself and what you really need to do, to be healthy in mind, body, soul.
2. Take care of yourself. No one can change your circumstances but you. If you hate your situation, change it. But don’t complain about it and expect a miracle to happen. Things can always change. If that means finding a new job so that you’ll be happier, then do it. If it means, dropping negative people in your life, then do that too. No one can really take care of you better than yourself.
3. Give yourself time and space to think positively. Think of what you really want to happen in your life and what will make you happy. The sky’s the limit. What’s your dream job? What’s your dream salary? How would it feel like to be free from debt?
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